The Requisition for External Validation

I was scouring through the world wide web if I can read anything regarding this topic but it seems people aren't that much interested or perhaps, they just don't want it noticed.

From what I can see, there is a much needed attention when it comes to obtaining praises and rewards not just when it comes to occupation but more of how you function as a person.

I asked 3 friends who were more than willing to provide a good opinion on this topic: a fashion designer, a Psychology student and an Early Childhood Education student.

Is it imperative to seek external validation?

From FD: I can't speak for others but external validation has never been a need for me. External Validation works for those who have little belief in their capacity as a human being. While being affirmation may be good, it should never define who we are. Our spirit is far greater than anything outside of it.

Very well said.

From Psych stud: This is a simple case of Nature vs. Nurture: I say we're born with an inherent need for validation, simply because that's the natural order of things. On the other hand, some would say that it's one way how the society influences us: people generally move toward the standard. If you're gonna ask why, I'll be coming back to my basic premise that it's the natural  order of things. Society may have contributed to the idea but the human is still responsible for this action.

Ahem, good point of view, I must say.

From Early Childhood Educ stud:  Regardless of how people were brought up, I think that external validation is not really imperative but we all know that praises and rewards are needed in order for man to rise from the rank he is in currently. It is society that concocted the idea of validation and it is factual that we all need this in order to survive. To fully grasp the idea that there is dependency of man towards people, experiences and thoughts.

Well done, kudos to the point  given. 

From  Guyrony: Everyone needs Validation regardless of status,gender, creed, and color. I don't think society implemented External Validation just because we need approval from people to make our own actions or more specifically, if actions done are up to norm or deviant. True, we may be people of great capacity and strength but who will we benchmark ourselves into without knowing? How will we know if an action that took place is good, better or best if no one is there to tell us that? We have an inherent need for external validation simply because we are born to have feedbacks in order to develop as a person.

Great Capacities and Skills may be God-given but are honed from scratch.A feedback (either positive or negative) in the forms of rewards, praises, promotions, demotions, criticisms, and punishments are needed because this is a must from us, the person himself, to be able to know what can we do to improve.

Which makes me think: Are Gay Guys going to the gym looking for External Validation or for Healthy Lifestyle purposes?

Hmmmmm.... 


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