Post Coitus Possessiveness
What makes people prone to feel possessive after s**?
Is it the libido?
Or is it the emotion?
Or is it both?
For quite sometime, I have been asking myself this question.
How about you?
Have you ever felt such?
That when you had done it, you just felt that he belonged to you? And you belonged to him?
Funny right? And quite selfish too.
When mypromiscuity curiosity started and had an encounter for the first time - I thought I had him! I thought that it would prosper into something. Being a naive, gullible and ignorant teen that I was, I fell and boy did I fell hard...on the floor.
With successive encounters I realized how foolish it must have been for me to assume lust and love were the same. They were totally not of the same league. And not completely opposite either.
With later encounters, I have tried and accomplished to play it cool, sometimes up to the extent of completely dissing the idea that I did a hook-up with that person. It's not a skill nor does everyone have to live with the idea that s** is just s** because admit it or not, some people still see it as something sacred.
As for me, it still is, but with the one I love, not with the one I lust.
Is it the libido?
Or is it the emotion?
Or is it both?
For quite sometime, I have been asking myself this question.
How about you?
Have you ever felt such?
That when you had done it, you just felt that he belonged to you? And you belonged to him?
Funny right? And quite selfish too.
When my
With successive encounters I realized how foolish it must have been for me to assume lust and love were the same. They were totally not of the same league. And not completely opposite either.
With later encounters, I have tried and accomplished to play it cool, sometimes up to the extent of completely dissing the idea that I did a hook-up with that person. It's not a skill nor does everyone have to live with the idea that s** is just s** because admit it or not, some people still see it as something sacred.
As for me, it still is, but with the one I love, not with the one I lust.
Whoa, man, can't ignore this post. Our vulnerability never comes from our heart sometimes. It sometimes comes from our brains and when you see the fucking fucker cute or something you wanted to keep for life, then mind dictates you should utter this word.
ReplyDeleteAnd admittedly, it helps you more feel comfy on having encounter with that hot ass. Our minds jerks a lot of words to make our sex cooler than ever.
I had an experience with this. We are doing the routine and when he gets inside of me, i told him you are just this freaking awesome fucker i ever had, then i fueled him badly, we did it almost an hour, going in and out. Whoa, freaking have a hard on now! But after that sex, we never communicate, nor exchanging number happened. So it's just this freaking LUST that drives our mind foolishly!
Nurse na nurse talaga. "coitus" haha!
ReplyDeletei thought the same before when I also had an encounter like that. twas so hard. hindi ko naiwasan ang attachment that's why I dont want to do it again.
ReplyDeleteyeah, for me, still its best thing to do it with your loved one.
whenever i feel the strong connection after doing the deed comes in (whether it's from him or me), i suddenly disconnect from the person and makes sure whatever bond we have will be removed forever. ONS is just ONS. i may be wrong with this, but for me, sex with a stranger is just sex. now as for doing it with the person i love, my only principle is--he has to be in love with me just like the way my love for him will be.
ReplyDelete"With successive encounters I realized how foolish it must have been for me to assume lust and love were the same. They were totally not of the same league. And not completely opposite either."
ReplyDeleteEver wonder why the pros never feel at all? Its all about the cycle. The more you sleep with others, the less you feel the gravity of attachment.
exclusivity.
ReplyDeleteI already consider myself belonging to that person before we do 'these, those and that'. you drop anyone else and it's special that way. but knowing what you are to that person and what you really feel before you do it is a good direction to a more important event than sleeping with each other:
what happens next.
I feel a different connection with different people. For some whom I've been with, it was purely an act of hedonism, parang one night thing lang talaga. Others in the past had an emotional connection and it's waaaay different. :-)
ReplyDeleteIdol talaga kita! lagi dumudugo ilong ko sa iyo! hahaha
ReplyDeletePapaalam lang si Greatkid_08 iyo! Salamat sa lahat! isang malakas na kiss sa betlog mo! mwah!
*tim - I definitely agree, it was just lust and attachment, not love, not love at all.
ReplyDelete*RJ - hehe. Of course!
*Kyle - the important thing there is you learned. We learned. Amen.
*anteros' dominion - I completely agree with you - ONS is ONS, nothing more, better less. :)
*Mu[g]en - sometimes, especially if the person is a fast learner, once is enough.
*Alter - wow! One of the blessed few who has a principle like that. Good for you.
*C.C. - hey, I missed you! How have you been? Well hedonism is what drives us to love sometimes, the connection, the attachment, the desperation, the woes...you get the drift.
*JR - AND WHERE WILL YOU GO? Don't tell me you're on hiatus?
i think it's the rejection. remember the Kimmy Dora line: "rejection is the greatest aphrodisiac" or something. in this case, the other guy realizes that you're not interested in anything beyond sex and it's a slap on his ego. not exactly rejection but a variant.
ReplyDeletei feel an overwhelming urge to explain this in detail. which is why i'm going to stop here.
You should have expounded it. Hehehe.
ReplyDeleteahehe. I've so much to learn pa. Nice post :)
ReplyDeleteBaby steps. ;)
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