Profundity
Wisest is the man who appreciates the simplest things in life.
On the 27th of December, around 23:00 Manila time, I experienced something unexplainable, a meeting of the minds that wasn't supposed to end that way.
Bobot, a man in his early 50's was able to narrate and share how he coped up with being gay in his early life. He is a simple, conservative but agile when it comes to sex, yet, when he was telling us his stories, there was no air nor boastfulness coming from his lips. The words were delicately cascading like a waterfall to a calm lagoon, the elegance of his vocabulary is just spectacular and awesome, the word magnificent doesn't even compare to his insights on things he encountered or experienced. There is nirvana in his soul, and all of us are all ears.
He was telling us that during his time, they do not get together with gay friends. On the contrary, being gay that time wasn't a problem for them. He always would meet-up with 2 friends (it doesn't matter what gender) and if one of those 2 would be gay, it is just a matter of having the benefit of the doubt. There was no such thing as criticizing, ostracizing, confronting, even opening up that someone is gay. For him that time, there are more things to consider than thinking that you're gay and how it is to live in a society, regardless of sexual preference nor orientation.
Are we, the modern gay guys, over-analyzing too much?
Bobot, accurately narrates that even when he was younger, he doesn't need to tell people of himself. There was no such thing as LABELING. It's a non- existent word. You would be a man OR a woman, none in the middle and definitely nothing outside the idea. He knows he is gay but it didn't occur to him to out himself. Why so? Because he wants to keep something of him very private and personal. Someone who you would see as simplistic but with a lot of details interiorly. Well said.
He went on explaining how he diverted thoughts of being gay to something more productive. He is a Production Designer and people wouldn't actually judge you immediately that you are gay if your occupation is like that. He is a magnificent person, he allotted his time meditating and contemplating of things. His coping skills are bar none and something we could really look up to.
Rule of thumb for him: divert yourself.
I, personally, am being this type for such a long time. I have so many regrets and emotional baggage in me that I am like a jetsetter out to conquer the world with myself and my baggages.
We were speechless during his limelight and what I asked him is: How were you able to vent out with being gay? I'm pretty sure that even though you don't want to think about it, there will come to a point that you just want to tell someone of an idea who you really are, what problems you're encountering and how to cope up. He nonchalantly explained how the mind works in such a powerful way that all he needs to do is get up, do something unrelated and go on with life, not complicating anything, not undermining things.
I badly need his coping prowess. :)
Bobot was telling us that even at a young age, he didn't see himself as gay. He neither did experience a time when he was confused about who he really is. He didn't elaborate much about how his family played a role but it wasn't important that time. His statements made an impact to how he is, how he lives and how he plays the role of a gay man in a decade where a person is still a person, dressed in drag or what not.
There was a time when MGG asked Bobot what he could advise us young gay guys in the modern society, Bobot, being the humble and conservative that he is actually asked us how we cope up with living in an era of uncertainties and doubts. I told him that we vent out... it's just a matter of what form you are venting out from but the most important thing is that you vent out. Don't keep it all to yourself. you are not an omniscient being nor are you capable of doing the impossible. You are yourself: unique and nearly indestructible.
Bobot's last words were: I have gone through the same experiences and phases as you did but it may have taken another form. It may not have been equal in a superficial way but the idea and the concept are both there.
Well said Sir, I greatly appreciate you for those wise words and insights.
Upon leaving his interiorly eccentric home, all I could picture is him and how his personality deeply reflected on how I want to treat myself and how I could simplify things as they were.
I have to thank him for laying the ground work for us young gays to have a very solid foundation on how society treats us and how we want to be treated.
P.S. So excited on the Fabcasters Party! Woohoo!
On the 27th of December, around 23:00 Manila time, I experienced something unexplainable, a meeting of the minds that wasn't supposed to end that way.
Bobot, a man in his early 50's was able to narrate and share how he coped up with being gay in his early life. He is a simple, conservative but agile when it comes to sex, yet, when he was telling us his stories, there was no air nor boastfulness coming from his lips. The words were delicately cascading like a waterfall to a calm lagoon, the elegance of his vocabulary is just spectacular and awesome, the word magnificent doesn't even compare to his insights on things he encountered or experienced. There is nirvana in his soul, and all of us are all ears.
He was telling us that during his time, they do not get together with gay friends. On the contrary, being gay that time wasn't a problem for them. He always would meet-up with 2 friends (it doesn't matter what gender) and if one of those 2 would be gay, it is just a matter of having the benefit of the doubt. There was no such thing as criticizing, ostracizing, confronting, even opening up that someone is gay. For him that time, there are more things to consider than thinking that you're gay and how it is to live in a society, regardless of sexual preference nor orientation.
Are we, the modern gay guys, over-analyzing too much?
Bobot, accurately narrates that even when he was younger, he doesn't need to tell people of himself. There was no such thing as LABELING. It's a non- existent word. You would be a man OR a woman, none in the middle and definitely nothing outside the idea. He knows he is gay but it didn't occur to him to out himself. Why so? Because he wants to keep something of him very private and personal. Someone who you would see as simplistic but with a lot of details interiorly. Well said.
He went on explaining how he diverted thoughts of being gay to something more productive. He is a Production Designer and people wouldn't actually judge you immediately that you are gay if your occupation is like that. He is a magnificent person, he allotted his time meditating and contemplating of things. His coping skills are bar none and something we could really look up to.
Rule of thumb for him: divert yourself.
I, personally, am being this type for such a long time. I have so many regrets and emotional baggage in me that I am like a jetsetter out to conquer the world with myself and my baggages.
We were speechless during his limelight and what I asked him is: How were you able to vent out with being gay? I'm pretty sure that even though you don't want to think about it, there will come to a point that you just want to tell someone of an idea who you really are, what problems you're encountering and how to cope up. He nonchalantly explained how the mind works in such a powerful way that all he needs to do is get up, do something unrelated and go on with life, not complicating anything, not undermining things.
I badly need his coping prowess. :)
Bobot was telling us that even at a young age, he didn't see himself as gay. He neither did experience a time when he was confused about who he really is. He didn't elaborate much about how his family played a role but it wasn't important that time. His statements made an impact to how he is, how he lives and how he plays the role of a gay man in a decade where a person is still a person, dressed in drag or what not.
There was a time when MGG asked Bobot what he could advise us young gay guys in the modern society, Bobot, being the humble and conservative that he is actually asked us how we cope up with living in an era of uncertainties and doubts. I told him that we vent out... it's just a matter of what form you are venting out from but the most important thing is that you vent out. Don't keep it all to yourself. you are not an omniscient being nor are you capable of doing the impossible. You are yourself: unique and nearly indestructible.
Bobot's last words were: I have gone through the same experiences and phases as you did but it may have taken another form. It may not have been equal in a superficial way but the idea and the concept are both there.
Well said Sir, I greatly appreciate you for those wise words and insights.
Upon leaving his interiorly eccentric home, all I could picture is him and how his personality deeply reflected on how I want to treat myself and how I could simplify things as they were.
I have to thank him for laying the ground work for us young gays to have a very solid foundation on how society treats us and how we want to be treated.
P.S. So excited on the Fabcasters Party! Woohoo!
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