A Bit of Infidelity to Preserve a Long Commitment
Scenario:
Guy A has a long time partner of more than a year and feeling very monotonous about the relationship. He feels there is already lacking and the excitement part is unfelt anymore. Guy A thinks something needs to be done before he completely falls out of love. Guy A thinks Guy B is the one he could stay with for a long time but is just scared of falling out...
Guy B on the other hand has no problem with his relationship to Guy A. He is very happy with his life with him and every moment spent is every moment well worth living. He is very understandable, patient, kind and wants to give the whole world to Guy A.
Meanwhile, Guy A went on a flirting mode to a social networking site now owned by an Asian Company for the sum of $10 million dollars, but anyway, he chats with people over there. He doesn't really message people, it's more of, people giving him a message and then he starts the deed of flirting. Guy A thinks that this is something very unhealthy to a long term commitment but wants to salvage the existing one through flirting and hooking-up with other people just to entice him better so that he could stay longer for Guy B.
Does this seem too familiar?
Or perhaps a twisted plot to make you think it's familiar?
Guy A is very egocentric and self-centered, he considers himself humble but acts so proud of himself. People look up to him and tell him that he has so much potential but Guy A, doesn't believe so.Even Guy B knows there is still something that needs to be unleashed with Guy A. But, he has a very low self-esteem coming from his childhood memories of him being teased and insulted and mocked. It's a worst kid's nightmare because the memories are still coming back every now and then.
Guy B remains the faithful, loving boyfriend that he really is, from the first time they met until everything is nearly faltering. He's the type of person that is very in sync with his feelings and emotions. He doesn't need any one telling him how bad or good he is. He already established himself as someone who may not look good but acts great. Guy B is the type who you would fall not because of his physicality but of his heart.
You know it's really ironic how things work. In this case, Guy A wants a long lasting relationship with Guy B but doesn't want to get bored with him or what not so he flies from hook-up to hook-up just to spice and maintain his relationship with his partner. Don't get Guy A wrong, he deeply loves Guy B and wants to share his life with him as well but Guy B is a little on the dull and drab side of personality.
The only things they share in common are food and sex.
Everything is opposite there on. But their differences are in a way, pieces of a puzzle which are inter-locking and connected to each other.
How do you perceive this kind of set-up?
Do you think this is normal for a relationship that's been going on for quite sometime?
I vaguely remembered a gay man in his 40's, let us call him Po (from Kung-fu Panda) who has a partner of the same age. They have been together for nearly 19 fruitful years and in between the length of the relationship, both of them, although not admittingly, are having sex with other men.
When asked why he does it, he answered that both of them know that they love each other and they are in it for the long haul but it's just natural that you get tired of the same lifestyle that both of them have been accustomed.
Is it libido calling? Or perhaps one's longing for something new? Or both?
All I know is that I am, hands down, a culprit of this act. I know it may look immoral nor is it acceptable but I still know my boundaries and limitations when it comes to playing the deadly game of flirting when unavailable. It may take some time for people to accept this deed or they may never even accept the idea but the bottom line is that:
Every person is capable of doing the impossible if choice permits.
Guy A has a long time partner of more than a year and feeling very monotonous about the relationship. He feels there is already lacking and the excitement part is unfelt anymore. Guy A thinks something needs to be done before he completely falls out of love. Guy A thinks Guy B is the one he could stay with for a long time but is just scared of falling out...
Guy B on the other hand has no problem with his relationship to Guy A. He is very happy with his life with him and every moment spent is every moment well worth living. He is very understandable, patient, kind and wants to give the whole world to Guy A.
Meanwhile, Guy A went on a flirting mode to a social networking site now owned by an Asian Company for the sum of $10 million dollars, but anyway, he chats with people over there. He doesn't really message people, it's more of, people giving him a message and then he starts the deed of flirting. Guy A thinks that this is something very unhealthy to a long term commitment but wants to salvage the existing one through flirting and hooking-up with other people just to entice him better so that he could stay longer for Guy B.
Does this seem too familiar?
Or perhaps a twisted plot to make you think it's familiar?
Guy A is very egocentric and self-centered, he considers himself humble but acts so proud of himself. People look up to him and tell him that he has so much potential but Guy A, doesn't believe so.Even Guy B knows there is still something that needs to be unleashed with Guy A. But, he has a very low self-esteem coming from his childhood memories of him being teased and insulted and mocked. It's a worst kid's nightmare because the memories are still coming back every now and then.
Guy B remains the faithful, loving boyfriend that he really is, from the first time they met until everything is nearly faltering. He's the type of person that is very in sync with his feelings and emotions. He doesn't need any one telling him how bad or good he is. He already established himself as someone who may not look good but acts great. Guy B is the type who you would fall not because of his physicality but of his heart.
You know it's really ironic how things work. In this case, Guy A wants a long lasting relationship with Guy B but doesn't want to get bored with him or what not so he flies from hook-up to hook-up just to spice and maintain his relationship with his partner. Don't get Guy A wrong, he deeply loves Guy B and wants to share his life with him as well but Guy B is a little on the dull and drab side of personality.
The only things they share in common are food and sex.
Everything is opposite there on. But their differences are in a way, pieces of a puzzle which are inter-locking and connected to each other.
How do you perceive this kind of set-up?
Do you think this is normal for a relationship that's been going on for quite sometime?
I vaguely remembered a gay man in his 40's, let us call him Po (from Kung-fu Panda) who has a partner of the same age. They have been together for nearly 19 fruitful years and in between the length of the relationship, both of them, although not admittingly, are having sex with other men.
When asked why he does it, he answered that both of them know that they love each other and they are in it for the long haul but it's just natural that you get tired of the same lifestyle that both of them have been accustomed.
Is it libido calling? Or perhaps one's longing for something new? Or both?
All I know is that I am, hands down, a culprit of this act. I know it may look immoral nor is it acceptable but I still know my boundaries and limitations when it comes to playing the deadly game of flirting when unavailable. It may take some time for people to accept this deed or they may never even accept the idea but the bottom line is that:
Every person is capable of doing the impossible if choice permits.
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