Differentiating Memories...
What do you remember most?
Yes, you, what type of memories linger around in your mind? Floating. Wafting. Sticking.
Sometimes, memories are like that. It brings us of unique sets of emotions overlying each other.
But we cannot help it. It is after all part of the process of maturity and development.
An acquaintance recently sent a message that goes something like this: "Let's get rid of the memories that makes us feel sad and relieve only those that makes us happy."
And even though I abhor quotations, I cannot help but rationalize on what she just forwarded.
Can we really do that? Separate those that just makes us happy, ecstatic, and disregard those that makes us sad?
Soon I realized we can try our best to but for the most part, almost nil.
I then asked her "what if the memories you have are both sad then happy?"
She replied, "then retain the happy and let go of the sad part."
It confused me.
I replied again "well what if you can't?"
She eagerly replied "then maybe you have not gotten over that person yet. Why would it even make you sad?"
But I am over that person, longer than I have known her. The mystifying part of memories is that it offers you exactly both - the wonderful times you spent together and the lonely moments of misunderstanding and release.
You cannot remove one from the other, block them from flowing into your realm because these occurred at least one after the other...
She cannot understand that, thus I finally asked her "how many boyfriends have you had already?"
"Without the flings? Two."
And then I finally understood what she wants to say. Or a part of it at least.
Yes, you, what type of memories linger around in your mind? Floating. Wafting. Sticking.
Sometimes, memories are like that. It brings us of unique sets of emotions overlying each other.
But we cannot help it. It is after all part of the process of maturity and development.
An acquaintance recently sent a message that goes something like this: "Let's get rid of the memories that makes us feel sad and relieve only those that makes us happy."
And even though I abhor quotations, I cannot help but rationalize on what she just forwarded.
Can we really do that? Separate those that just makes us happy, ecstatic, and disregard those that makes us sad?
Soon I realized we can try our best to but for the most part, almost nil.
I then asked her "what if the memories you have are both sad then happy?"
She replied, "then retain the happy and let go of the sad part."
It confused me.
I replied again "well what if you can't?"
She eagerly replied "then maybe you have not gotten over that person yet. Why would it even make you sad?"
But I am over that person, longer than I have known her. The mystifying part of memories is that it offers you exactly both - the wonderful times you spent together and the lonely moments of misunderstanding and release.
You cannot remove one from the other, block them from flowing into your realm because these occurred at least one after the other...
She cannot understand that, thus I finally asked her "how many boyfriends have you had already?"
"Without the flings? Two."
And then I finally understood what she wants to say. Or a part of it at least.
selective amnesia? mas masakit kaya pag biglang bumalik ang memory na yun.. mas intense hurt na mararamdaman mo..
ReplyDeletebut what really struck me was that you really didn't stop asking her until you were able to analyze what she meant.. kaw na ang mahilig mag-rationalize! :)
in the novel love in the time of cholera by gabriel garcia marquez, fermina daza mentioned that she hopes she knows what do with things she don't really need but never have the courage to throw them...
ReplyDeleteThe emotional change is hard I think and that is more of an experience than just being very happy all the time, so the change from happy to sad is what adds the emotion in. That's what makes you human... Happy New Year! =)
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