Of Dating And Dealing

"I really think we have something." Kane told me over the phone last Saturday.

"But I had been single for so long that it became innate for me to live singly." He continued.

"But," I interjected. "But you know I felt that it made you a better person. It made you stronger, more independent."

"Well yeah that is true."

"I have something to ask, if you don't mind."

"Sure."

"Do you think you want to be committed just because or because you really felt something in him?"

"You know G," Kane spoke softly, "For the longest time I have not been committed and you know that. But with him, I feel I can commit...But..."

"Did I hear a but?" I joked.

We giggled.

"You know me G, I still have boys. I don't know if I can be, uhm, faithful."

"There's the word that I was looking for. You know once you say yes to him there will be no other numbers of boys from Grindr. You have to delete EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM." I half-heartedly emphasized.

"OMG! As in, EVERY. ONE. OF. THEM?"

"Yes. Unfortunately."

We laughed hysterically.

"So take your pick, you always have the option Kane. The upper hand is yours."

"We'll see G. We'll see. Well, I gotta go. We'll be seeing a play by 2. Talk to you soon."

"Have fun and enjoy."

Boys. They are everywhere. You see potential everywhere but most of them are just that, potential. As I walked home from our conversation I looked at my phonebook. I looked at the guys I have saved from Grindr. Each and every one of them, a potential. And sometimes, you can't even figure out who is who anymore. I browsed and I saw Jay, Jayjay, another Jay so I put his pseudonym beside, then Jervy, then John, John T., Jon, Joshua, Julius, James, James Vincent, two Daryls, Dean, Derick, Dan, a Rico, a Ryan, a Ron, Al, Albert, Arturo, also Marc, Mark, Mon.

There are a lot of names but frankly, only one-tenth of them I have met and the rest are just a constant reminder why I am still single.

And when the time comes that I'm ready to love again, these guys, these random and multiple guys will be out of my phonebook for good.

For that is a party boy's vow.

But for now...well...they're good for something.

Grindr 102

1. If you really are interested you will take note of small details in your conversation.

2. Have your location ready so you don't need to tell people every time where you live. Geez.

3. Rule of thumb: Share one photo at a time. Dude, you're not scrapbooking. Don't show him the whole album of your vanity moments.

4. A simple 'Hi' doesn't mean he's sexually interested in you. Get a grip.

5. Guys have this psychological thing going on when he asks for your number and you give it and then immediately gives you his. Don't fall into this. If he asks for your number first then let him make the move through mobile first.

6. Guys that are too demanding on pictures need to be blocked! Hahahaha!

7. Speaking of blocking, it's okay to block guys as I learned from my friend. You know why? In order to search more guys of your liking in your area. Totally cool.

8. Yes you can say what you want to say but please have the decency not to bash others. So what if they are effeminate or chubby? They are still part of the gay spectrum too. You don't need to be rude you know.

9. Believe me, the more guys' numbers you store, the more stressful and forgetful you get.

10. Well don't bash others but it's totally fine to bash posers! Hell yeah! We don't care if you're-too-discreet-for-Grindr-that-you-can't-post-a-genuine-picture-of-you! Then stop using Grindr a**wipe!